One of the most challenging part of being parents, is being married first. When kids come into the picture there is no doubt that they quickly become the center of attention. I mean, every mom knows that their life is instantly planned around feeding times, nap times, and that “best time of the day” where you know you child will undoubtedly be the happiest. When you look at the effect it has on the life of the mom, you don’t have to do much convincing to show the effect it has on a marriage as well.

Children can quickly become the center of what everything is focused around. Some of that will be hard to escape, especially in the younger years. Babies and toddlers are very demanding, they require a lot of help and a lot of taking care of. You can’t send them off to make their own food or get their own drinks, they can’t even bathe themselves yet. So there will be a season of life where things seem to be very centered around children, but it’s just that, a season.

Your marriage was there before kids and it’s going to be there after kids. One of the most important things to remember when raising children is that you are married first and parents second. One of the best things you can do as a parent is to remember that because it will inevitably make you a better parent. When your children are surrounded by people who love each other, and are in an environment where they know they are loved, it will make a difference.

So mama, remember you were his wife first. What can you do this week to show him he is still your number one? Steal those kisses. Savor those hugs. Drop what you’re doing when he walks in the door and give him your attention. Even if your hair hasn’t been brushed, or you’re still in your sweats, I promise he won’t care. You’re the most beautiful thing he has ever laid eyes on. You are the mother of his children, but you are his love first.