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on October 10, 2016 · 2 Comments

To the Mom Getting Ready to Have Her Second Baby

To the mama who is getting ready for her second baby, this is for you.

It’s been over a year now since I have had my second baby, 18 months to be exact. I can still remember the emotions of finding out about my second little blessing as if it was yesterday. I was overjoyed. The thought of creating a relationship that only my husband and I could create for my son, a sibling. Only we could give him this special blessing. Suddenly, my baby boy didn’t seem such a baby anymore. He was not going to be my big boy. Oh goodness how life was going to change.

I remember the months passing and soaking up every last moment just the two of us, just me and him during the days. I wondered how life would change, how would I be able to share my love equally with these two? How would I share my attention equally with these two? As the day got closer and closer I remember the emotions flooding in…was I really ready for it to not be just the two of us anymore? Could I really handle two? Being out numbered? Would I be able to make sure my son didn’t forget how much I loved him?

The emotions were overwhelming. But then the most beautiful moment came; my son and my daughter in the same room together. Not for the first time, not for the second time, but every time the two of them were together my heart exploded. It was this glimpse of beauty that told me, “You can do it.”

So mama getting ready to have her second baby here is what I want to tell you..

You can do it.

The tired nights, the leaking milk, the foggy brain, the sore body, the busy toddler, the sleeping baby, all of it…you can handle it. It’s going to be different, but such a beautiful difference. It will take time to adjust, time to find your new groove, time to find how you can juggle it well, but you can do it.

Don’t for one second question how your love will stretch across two babies, because it won’t, it will multiply. Your love will expand to depths you’ve never experienced before. You will love harder than you ever have before. The moment you see both your babies together your heart will surely explode.

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Mama, are you preparing for your second baby? Are you worried about how your love will double? This is for you.

There will be days you wonder what you got yourself into. There will be days you feel like you are drowning. On those days, step away and take a deep breath. Remember that those days call for grace, and embrace it. Take a mom time out and wonder the aisles of Target kid free, then return with a fresh breath of air and rock this mommy thing, because you can.

I promise you, the moment you see the two of your babies together you’ll be wondering what life ever was like without that precious second baby. You will embrace life as a family of four and you’ll forget what it ever was like with just three. And the moment you see your first born after you hold your second born you will think they grew overnight, and you know what mama, they did. They grew to be that big sibling just as quickly as you became a mom of two. It’s beautiful you know, the way life grows and changes. It’s beautiful to watch your family grow.

You’ve got this sweet mama. Being a mom of two, it isn’t so bad. You will find your place, and your love will multiply. And you mama, you’ll grow into this new role just like you did the first time, but this time with a little more experience under your belt.

You can do it.

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  1. Brittany Arpke Meng says

    December 13, 2016 at 12:25 PM

    Great post! I am the editor of MotheringBeyondExpectations.com (a collective blog) and I just shared it to our FB page. (I’m also the mom of 4 so I’ve been there too!)

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    • Alessandra says

      January 4, 2017 at 10:27 AM

      Thank you so much! I will check you guys out on Facebook now!

      Reply

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