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on July 6, 2016 · 2 Comments

I am More than a Mom

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Being a stay at home mom was my dream. There was a day that thinking of being home with my babies, taking care of home, taking care of children, preparing meals, planning activities, and everything else that comes with the title of stay at home mom made me long for the future. This was my dream and I couldn’t wait for it to happen, I couldn’t wait to live it.

Then I held my first baby boy in my hands and I knew my life would never be the same. My dream was coming true, right before my eyes. I had no idea what I was doing, but I knew I would learn. I knew that even though motherhood was going to be hard, I would love every last moment of it. It was my dream, what wasn’t there to love?

I found myself in the middle of this dream, loving my children with every ounce of me, but feeling so incredibly lost. Who was I anymore? I couldn’t go to the bathroom alone. I couldn’t get a full night sleep. I couldn’t even keep my house clean before a little human destroyed it right behind me. Leaving the house, if I even knew what that was anymore, was a chore. I was sitting there buried under my dream. I was drowning in everything that I had ever wanted.

And then it hit me. Motherhood was defining me. Motherhood was becoming all that I was. Motherhood was taking over me. I had forgotten that outside of motherhood, there was still me. I wasn’t just a mom. I was more than a mom. There was more to me than being just a mom.

My entire identity is not defined by mom.

I am more than a mom.

And I am on this journey discovering that, and I want you to discover it with me. I want you to take this step and say, “I am more than a mom.”

Together, we will dive into this. Together, we will take this journey. Together, we will discover that we are more.

This month I have some special things planned as we discover this together. I will even be sharing some dreams and stories of some amazing mamas with a big giveaway at the end of the month. So don’t miss it, this is going to be good.

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  1. Susannah says

    July 7, 2016 at 1:50 PM

    <3 Such truth!!! I can't wait to read all you (and others) have to say about this throughout the month!

    Reply
    • Alessandra says

      August 2, 2016 at 1:47 PM

      Reading everyone’s stories had to be one of my favorite things!

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