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on April 25, 2016 · 4 Comments

To the Mom Who Missed Church Again

I know what it feels like to do everything you can to get out the door and make it to church, to then not be able to sit through service. Mama, I see you.

I see you.

I see you walking the church hallways with your baby who wouldn’t stay in the nursery, yet again.

I see you wrestling your baby in church hoping to keep them busy enough to hear the message.

I see you checking your phone to realize the nursery is calling you once again because they couldn’t calm your crying baby.

Mama, I see you.

I know you are exhausted. You rush around all morning trying to get yourself ready, the babies ready, the bags packed, and a million snacks together to arrive late anyways. That has become normal for you, but you think, at least I’m here, better late than never, right? You get all the babies to the designated rooms, rush into service, and take a deep breath, you have made it. You are here. You soak up the moment to breathe and rest in God’s presence, when is the last time you have had a moment to yourself again?

Then it happens. The phone call, the text, the “I am sorry, but your baby needs you.”

You sit there with your baby and you think to yourself, why do I even try?”

Mama, I see you.

You know who else sees you? He sees you. Your Heavenly Father sees you.

He sees you doing everything you can to get yourself and your kids to church. He knows how hard it is to get up early after a sleepless night and get your kids out the door at a decent time. He knows how defeated you feel when you get there only to have your children fight the nursery. He sees you.

Mama, I’ve been there. You aren’t alone.

I know you can’t recall the last time you have sat through a message. I know you don’t even know the words to the songs they sing anymore. I know that you are feeling just plain defeated and sometimes you’re hanging by a thread when you get to church.

Mama, I’ve been there.

I know you are discouraged, I know you are exhausted. But mama, His grace is sufficient for you. His grace is enough for you. He is enough for you. Whether you make it through an entire service, five minutes, or not at all. He is enough for you.

Lean into Him mama, He has everything you need.

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  1. Julie Hood says

    April 25, 2016 at 5:14 PM

    So encouraging! My first few weeks back to church after having a baby felt like that–I rushed to get there just so I could miss most of the service because my crying newborn was only happy in mothers and baby room where, it just so happened, the live-streaming tv was out 🙁 (although now he’s happy, the tv works, and I don’t miss most of the serve! haha)

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    • Alessandra Ferguson says

      May 17, 2016 at 3:17 PM

      It never lasts forever, it’s just a season! But it can feel so hard in the middle of it!

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  2. Jessica McC says

    April 27, 2016 at 1:19 PM

    You touch a topic that is so relevant to moms. Yes, His grace is sufficient.

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    • Alessandra Ferguson says

      May 17, 2016 at 3:16 PM

      Thank you for your comment. I am glad you could relate!

      Reply

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