One of the most heartbreaking assumptions I have encountered
on my journey of motherhood is the idea that I have missed out on so much life
having children so young. My husband and I met when I was 17, engaged the day I
turned 19 and married seven months later, and found out we were expecting our
first child when I was 21. To so many people I wasted the best days of my life.
I missed out on the opportunity to really live, to really explore myself, and
to live my dreams. Never once have I felt this to be true, in fact I believe I have
gained so much more from marrying young (a post for another day) and entering
the world of motherhood at a young age.
on my journey of motherhood is the idea that I have missed out on so much life
having children so young. My husband and I met when I was 17, engaged the day I
turned 19 and married seven months later, and found out we were expecting our
first child when I was 21. To so many people I wasted the best days of my life.
I missed out on the opportunity to really live, to really explore myself, and
to live my dreams. Never once have I felt this to be true, in fact I believe I have
gained so much more from marrying young (a post for another day) and entering
the world of motherhood at a young age.
Sure, you give up a lot to be a mom. You sacrifice a lot. If
you remember my post from yesterday, being a mom just doesn’t fit into your
already perfectly planned out life. Becoming a mom plays a major role in how
every day moving forward will come to pass. But if you never look past the sacrifice
of being a mother, you will never see the beauty gained in life from having
children.
you remember my post from yesterday, being a mom just doesn’t fit into your
already perfectly planned out life. Becoming a mom plays a major role in how
every day moving forward will come to pass. But if you never look past the sacrifice
of being a mother, you will never see the beauty gained in life from having
children.
I said this would be unfiltered. I promised you this would
be real. Some days when you are in the trenches of this motherhood thing, it
feels like you are missing out. When you’re knee deep in dirty diapers, spit
up, screaming children, and an out of control house you could take a deep
breath and think of the peaceful coffee date with yourself you are missing out
on right now. When getting out of the house because you can’t stand it anymore
takes so much effort that just the process leaves you more stressed than the
stress level you were at before the need for a break, therefore making the
whole idea worthless. These days in the trenches make it so easy to think on
all the things you’ve lost, all the things you are missing, and all the things
you could be doing. These days leave you weary thinking maybe you missed the
line somewhere. Oh, sweet mama, don’t let this steal that joy. If you can hear
me now as I speak to you, don’t let the trenches of life keep you from
experiencing the beauty on the other side.
be real. Some days when you are in the trenches of this motherhood thing, it
feels like you are missing out. When you’re knee deep in dirty diapers, spit
up, screaming children, and an out of control house you could take a deep
breath and think of the peaceful coffee date with yourself you are missing out
on right now. When getting out of the house because you can’t stand it anymore
takes so much effort that just the process leaves you more stressed than the
stress level you were at before the need for a break, therefore making the
whole idea worthless. These days in the trenches make it so easy to think on
all the things you’ve lost, all the things you are missing, and all the things
you could be doing. These days leave you weary thinking maybe you missed the
line somewhere. Oh, sweet mama, don’t let this steal that joy. If you can hear
me now as I speak to you, don’t let the trenches of life keep you from
experiencing the beauty on the other side.
There is sacrifice in motherhood, but there is so much
beauty. There is so much to be gained from becoming a mother. Children open
your eyes to an entirely different perspective to the world around you. They
bring a joy in your life that is unexplainable. Children look at the world full
of wonder and remind you not to take the little things for granted. I didn’t
lose a chance at exploring the world; I gained an entire new perspective on
what this world had to offer. I experienced life being formed before my eyes
with every kick from within me. I experienced growth that each season brought.
I experienced love that could shake you to your very core. Starting so young
didn’t take anything away from me; it didn’t cause me to miss out on the best
part of life, and has enabled me to enjoy the best part of life even longer. It’s
not about everything I gave up, it’s about everything I gained.
beauty. There is so much to be gained from becoming a mother. Children open
your eyes to an entirely different perspective to the world around you. They
bring a joy in your life that is unexplainable. Children look at the world full
of wonder and remind you not to take the little things for granted. I didn’t
lose a chance at exploring the world; I gained an entire new perspective on
what this world had to offer. I experienced life being formed before my eyes
with every kick from within me. I experienced growth that each season brought.
I experienced love that could shake you to your very core. Starting so young
didn’t take anything away from me; it didn’t cause me to miss out on the best
part of life, and has enabled me to enjoy the best part of life even longer. It’s
not about everything I gave up, it’s about everything I gained.
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Love this girl!!! And it's so true. I wouldn't trade being a young wife/mom for anything 🙂
Well I am not a "Young" mom but I was at one point and I experienced having a baby at 20 almost 21 and now I wouldn't change a thing! The best advice is to look at the world through your children's eyes! It can change your whole perspective on life. Keep your head up your not sacrificing your gaining!!!
Beautiful post! Although I am not a young mom or wife by any means lol, I do believe the Lord allows you things to happen on His perfect timing. It's a blessing to be mommies and wives at 19 or at 45. Like you said it is all about looking at what you have gained:)
Yes, this is absolutely beautiful and it is definitely the truth. Motherhood does mean sacrificing so much, but at the same time the blessings are even more wonderful than whatever we gave up to be moms 🙂 Children are such a beautiful (and sometimes very messy) gift from God!
Amy @ http://www.livinglifetruth.com/
"enabled me to enjoy the best part of life even longer"
yes yes yes!