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on December 12, 2013 · 2 Comments

What We Allow In

There are some shows that I can watch or some music that I
can listen to and it is just fun. There is not really a meaning behind it and there
is not really anything it does for me. I love blasting music in the car with
the windows down and dancing my little heart out, it is something my siblings
have come to love about riding in the car with me. Then there is some things I
can watch or listen to that really uplift me. When I am feeling discouraged or
overwhelmed I know that I need to put on worship music. There is something that
worship does to my Spirit that helps turn my day around. When I am feeling
attacked by the enemy I am intentional about turning off the television and keeping
worship music playing. Some movies inspire me to overcome, to be better, to
help people, to strive at the best. “One Night with the King” is one of my
favorites. Esther inspires me like no other, so watching that movie does
something to my inner being that challenges me. Then there is those things I
can watch and listen to that really cause me to fight within. Shows that I
watch that cause fear or cause me to question my self confidence and worth.
Music that I can listen to brings back past memories that should rather be left
behind. There is music that causes me to be down or fill my mind with unwanted
thoughts.

The truth is, what we allow in our lives can pull a trigger
and influence what comes out of our lives. It can pull a trigger to the
thoughts that fill our minds.

I struggle with fear and worry. I pray daily that God will
equip me to not allow those thoughts in my life, but I have to do my part and
not open the door to them in my life. I do not watch scary movies, I just
cannot. Watching scary movies opens the door of worry and anxiety in my life
and causes me to dwell on those images. When everyone is talking about the
latest scary movie and how well done it was I ask myself, “What does it do for
me?” and realize that watching it is not the best decision. The same goes for
the music that I listen to.

This is hard because no one person is the same. Every person
will have different opinions to what allowing certain things in their life does
for them. God has called us to be diligent about watching over our hearts and
what we are allowing into our lives. We need to guard our mind and hearts
against all attacks of the enemy, even the ones that are seemingly harmless,
like media. I believe it is equally important that we are sensitive to the
hearts of others around us. We are called to edify the people around us, to
help spur them on with their walk with Christ. If one thing is too much for
someone in our family, then the choice to not allow it should be easy. We want
to help build each other up. We want to guard the hearts of our family as much
as we want to guard our own heart.

So to my children, I
do not have a yes or no for you here. Instead I have, “let’s talk about this
and figure out what it does for you.” I want you to be pro-active about
protecting the windows into your soul. I want you to be charged with guarding
your heart. There will be some things that we do not allow in our house for the
protection of every member of the family’s heart. As a family we will be
sensitive to each individual’s heart. Whatever you watch and whatever you
listen to I want you to be guided by the question we always ask, “Does this
benefit me?” Rather than having a list of what you can and cannot watch, what
you can and cannot listen to, I want you to know the power that media has in
influencing our lives. I want you to recognize that power and be diligent about
protecting your heart.

“Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your
life.” 
 Proverbs 4:23

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  1. Kalyn Randolph says

    December 12, 2013 at 4:28 PM

    You always make me think and pursue intentionally more. Love your heart! Keep sharing away 🙂

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  2. Lauren's thoughts says

    January 10, 2014 at 3:52 AM

    I love this post! It is true we need to watch what things we listen to and watch for our entertainment because it does affect us. I am fairly new to the blogging world and have been looking for other Christian bloggers, so I will be looking forward to more of your posts.

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