I love picking my kid’s clothes out. Every Sunday morning before we head off to church I skim through their closet and pick out the most adorable outfits. I love seeing Jase look like a little man and it never fails that every time he gets all dressed up I feel like he has grown over night. The amount of fun I have finding matching headbands and bows as I am skimming through Elyse’s clothes is probably ridiculous. Sometimes I might even choose her outfits completely based off of what headband I want her to wear that day. I might have a headband problem.
Then, after they’re all ready and dressed to their best, I head to my closet to find something for me.
Insert depressing thoughts here.
I never feel like I have anything to wear. I look in my closet and realize most of my clothes are from before I even had babies! Is it appropriate for a mom to wear what a college kid wore? I don’t even know. And yes, it’s really been that long since I have thought about updating my wardrobe. Those clothes just do not fit these mom hips like they used to. Let’s face it, my body is not the way it used to be.
So I fight back having an all out meltdown and put on the same outfit I wore a couple weeks ago. I kind of find myself living on this rotation of the two cute tops I own and the one dress I can semi pull of nursing in. And I text my best friend who lives states away and complain about never feeling like I have anything to wear and realizing I’ve become that mom who’s kids are dressed their best and I am wearing the same shirt I have had since college.
Now, I am all for making clothes last. If that shirt since college fits you well and is still in good shape then that is amazing. But I am also for taking care of yourself. And that is what I have realized I haven’t done.
I will go to the store and instantly head to the little baby clothes, I’m a mom, that’s what we do. I will avoid any section with clothes my size because I don’t even know what to wear these days. But those days are over. It’s time that I realize that I matter too. My kids have closets full of clothes that they look and feel great in. I deserve to look and feel great too.
So, I am making a deal with myself, I’m not buying my kids anymore clothes. Instead, I am slowly going to build up a collection of clothes that help me feel good about myself. It isn’t fair for me to feel down about the clothes I have to wear. Although it is something seemingly small, it can really make a difference in how I feel. It’s about remembering that I matter too.
So moms, let’s do something for ourselves. Whether that be buying a new outfit once a month, going to get your nails painted one a month, or just being able to shower every day. It’s time you say no to something your kids probably have plenty of, and say yes to something for yourself. Don’t forget that you matter too.
What is something you can do for yourself this week?