Motherhood can be incredibly lonely. Sometimes you find yourself sitting at home watching life happen on a screen in your hand and you are just missing it. All of it. You’re home with sick kids, babies that need to be nursed, or sleeping, or changed, or kept on their routine for the sanity of everyone they come in contact with.
I know you’ve heard it before, you’re doing important work. You’re where you need to be. There is nothing more important.
Though it’s all true, it doesn’t validate how you feel. It doesn’t make the feelings of feeling lonely and left out disappear. Sometimes, it makes you feel bad for feeling that way at all.
So today, I am not going to tell you that motherhood is important work, I know you already know. I am not going to remind you how much of a blessing motherhood can be, you already know. Right now, I’m just going to say, I get it.
I get it. I know that motherhood can be lonely. I know that motherhood can be hard. I know that you feel unseen at times. And mama, it’s okay. It’s okay to have those feelings. It’s okay to feel sad. It’s okay to not be okay with the sacrifice that motherhood demands sometimes. Motherhood demands a lot of you. It demands your body, your time, your sleep, and every moment in between that it can possibly take hold of, it does.
Just because right now, you feel burdened by the demands motherhood throws at you does not mean you are any less of a mom. Allow yourself to not be okay sometimes. You don’t always have to hold it together. It’s okay to feel alone. It’s okay to feel buried under motherhood. It’s okay that you feel how you do. You are still an incredible mom.
What’s important is that you know you’re not alone.
Because when you’re feeling alone, there is another mama who is feeling just the same.
Motherhood. We are in this together. The diapers, the giggles, the spit up, the toothless grins…and the loneliness.
So to the mama who feels alone today, I get it.