Motherhood is pretty unpredictable. If you’ve been a mom for any amount of time you have probably come to realize this truth. You can start the day with a few things in mind and before you know it the day is over and it’s gone a completely different direction. That’s okay. That’s motherhood. We get used to it.
So when thinking ahead and planning for the future it’s a bit impossible. You just never know how things are going to go and that can be pretty scary if you ask me.
Here we are with our little family of four, two kids, a boy and a girl and people would think we are done. We’ve got one of each, why have more? That’s what they say at least. But here is the thing, we don’t actually feel done. We believe that our little family isn’t complete just yet and we want more.
But here is the other thing, I am scared out of my mind. Three kids ya’ll. Three. How in the world will I handle three? I only have two hands! Now let’s be honest, some days I have it all under control and I’m like I could totally add a third right now. It would be fun! Then other days I think there is absolutely no way I will ever be able to handle any more kids.
Motherhood is so unpredictable and sometimes, it’s down-right scary.
Once you hit that year mark everyone is kind of looking at you sideways wondering if there is another coming soon or if you are done. Pretty much every time I share that we have an announcement coming, someone is looking at me with the look. You know the one that is thinking, are you pregnant? You are, aren’t you?! Nope. Just hanging out over here in my scared little corner saying three sounds pretty darn scary and fun at the same time.
So here I am in the middle of this little thought process. How do you plan for something that in truth is incredibly unpredictable? People always ask how do you know when to have another? It’s the question on every mama’s mind and I see it asked over and over.
Here’s my answer, you’ll just know.
This time our plan was to make sure Elyse would be at least two when our next baby was born. We thought that would be easier to have her a little more independent and those few months make a difference. But then here we are, past the time we would have planned, and something in me says it’s not time. Just not yet. And that’s okay. You will know.
There is no time or gap that you have to stick with. There is no plan that you have to follow. The only thing you need to do is trust yourself. And live in knowing that when it’s time, you will know.
You’ll know when you’re done. You’ll know when you’re not. And you’ll know when it’s time.
Even if your knowing doesn’t match up with your planning.
So what’s your biggest advice at adding a third into the mix? If you’re not there yet, what has helped you in knowing when it’s time for another?